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I’m an empath, and I think narcissists are special.
It may seem kind of silly, but the narcissist, the one so focused on how great they are, is actually profoundly wounded.
Something in childhood got to them. It unraveled them. It damaged them. And so now they seek validation.
But here I am. I’m an empath.
I’m a healer. I absorb what other people are feeling it and feel it as if it were my own.
My own pain, my own anguish, my own hurt.
Narcissists rarely know an empath’s boundaries. It makes us easy to bond with. We eat their pain like breakfast lunch and dinner.
What I always forget when I love a narcissist is that they’re takers. They don’t give much back.
They look to you to fix them. They’re never fixed though.
This leaves the empath now shattered and losing touch with their empathy.
It’s how narcissists are born. It’s hard to escape from.
At the end of the day, the narcissist is going to be manipulative. They desire deeply to be in a position of control.
All an empath really wants is love and to be loved. I want to heal people. I want to care for people.
But narcissists grow stronger from love like mine. Their damage is never healed, but they feel better about themselves.
But a narcissist never makes a true connection to their authentic selves.
They will walk away from almost every relationship once they realize they can’t control their partner anymore.
It’s no longer a fun game.
It’s just not possible for the two to bond. As an empath, you will likely attract several different types of narcissists to your life.
Below we have a compiled a list of the five most popular types of narcissists you will encounter:
1. The Victim
A narcissist isn’t always confident by nature. They can be quiet, reserved, and sensitive too.
They may engage in self-hatred and act like they aren’t worthy.
They are often motivated by their fears and don’t truly have the capacity to fully be themselves or loved.
Their narcissism is fueled by inferiority complexes.
2. The Superhero
On the opposite end of the spectrum is the superhero.
The one who thinks they’re smart, sexy, perfect, and just kick ass all the way around.
They act like nothing can possibly hurt them and that your duty in life is to make them feel super great about themselves because they are, after all, the best.
3. The Perfect Lover
This narcissist seems lovely at first because they display incredible care, affection, and perfection to you in the beginning.
They flatter you, give you gifts, and make you love them. As soon as they have you, they use you until they are no longer interested.
They eventually cast you aside as boring. These people are often “gold diggers” as well.
4. The Elitist
This is a type of narcissist that probably came from money and wants to stay that way.
They grew up in the lap of luxury and as a result look down on everyone else.
They may seem pragmatic, successful, intelligent, and driven at first, but eventually, they demonstrate a desire to one up, brag, and self-promote.
5. The Schemer
This type of narcissist seems like they have good intentions from the start.
They do good for people and their community, but there’s always something to their kindness.
They expect something in return. And if they don’t naturally get it, they’ll demand it.
If you don’t give it to them, get ready for a serious conflict.
How Can An Empath Stop The Damage And Put An End To This Toxic Relationship?
Every attempt to communicate your feelings to a narcissist is a lost cause.
Narcissists are very charismatic and manipulative.
They will constantly try to blame the empath for the pain of both parties.
They will make the empath feel as though they are responsible for all the problems at hand.
The Empath Has A Simple Choice
You can either remain as a victim of the narcissist’s cruel game, or you can find the needed strength to walk away and put an end to the relationship once and for all.
Empaths need to accept the fact that a narcissist will never change.
Waiting around for a narcissist to become a better person is a waste of precious time.
In the end, the only thing that truly matters is that we let others treat us the way we think we deserve to be treated.
If an empath willing stays in a toxic relationship with a narcissist, they end up thinking that they do not deserve better than that.
This couldn’t be farther from the truth.
As an empath, you need to understand that is not your job to fix others, especially those who do not want to be fixed.
You cannot fix someone who doesn’t think there is anything wrong.
Empaths need to realize that the way they were treated from the different types of narcissists listed above is not a treatment they deserved.
Find the courage to leave the relationship and utterly walk away from the narcissist.