While it may be true that women love hard and leave themselves vulnerable when it comes to relationships, they also know their self-worth. So, when a woman realizes that a relationship is only hurting her, you can bet that when she decides to leave, she’s not turning back.
A quote from the novel Paper Towns reads, “It is so hard to leave – until you leave. And then it is the easiest thing in the world.”
When you mistreat a woman, expect that she is decisive enough to know what she deserves and if she chooses to turn away, then know that’s she’s made up her mind. So, if you’re with a good woman who means the world to you, treat her right and she’ll show you just how much you mean to her.
Otherwise, she may decide to move forward and not turn back. To enlighten you, here are some thoughts that go through a woman’s head when she decides to leave for good.
5 Thoughts A Woman Has When She Leaves for Good
1. There’s No Reason for Her to Stay
When a woman is spent doing everything she could to make a relationship work that has slowly been crippling her, she’ll eventually realize that there’s no reason for her to stay any longer. If children are in the picture, it may make the decision a bit more difficult to do. If this is the case for you, then check out this article: Should Unhappy Couples Stay Together For The Kids?
But when a woman is ultimately exhausted all efforts, especially when it has been a one-way relationship, she’ll reach a point that leaving is not just her best choice but her only option.
A quote from this article says, “Your wife/[partner] is not your property. She does not owe you her soul. You earn it.”A good woman will not stay just to be stomped on. She will stay to love and care for her significant other unless she reaches a point that she’s only losing herself in the process. In that case, don’t be surprised if she no longer finds the reason to stay and decides to leave.
2. She’s Been Alone for Too Long
A real relationship goes far beyond a label. For it to be a healthy and functioning one, it requires two people to be physically and mentally present in the relationship. So, if a partner is rarely there for his woman, then how can she call what she has with him a relationship?
Marriage counselor Justin Schanfarber breaks it down to his readers. He said, “women leave for many reasons, but there’s one reason in particular that haunts me, one that I want men to understand: Women leave because their man is not present. He’s working, golfing, gaming, watching TV, fishing… the list is long. These aren’t bad men. They’re good fathers. They support their family. They’re nice, likable. But they take their wife for granted. They’re not present.”
This is not to suggest that men shouldn’t have hobbies and interests because they definitely should! The point is that a woman doesn’t need a partner to be available at her every beck and call, but she needs someone she can turn to and have someone support her especially when she needs it the most. If she’s being anchored down instead of being uplifted, she’ll eventually call quits by cutting herself loose so she can move on to be the best version of herself. After all, women are courageous that way.
3. She’s No Longer Loved
Oscar Wilde once said, “Women are made to be loved, not understood.” Though women are sometimes difficult to understand (as many men will quickly agree), loving them is the greatest gift they need. When you do so, they’ll reciprocate that and show you how much they value the way they’re treated.
This is not to say that all women are faithful when loved by good men because truthfully, some of them fail to appreciate their partner who loves them genuinely. But a faithful woman who cherishes a healthy relationship will love and care for her significant other when she’s treated right. Otherwise, she’ll turn around and walk away.
Take this advice from Mark Groves to your love your woman before she leaves you. He said, “We don’t see just how important she is, till she no longer is…with us. We don’t see how much love actually matters to us because we’re too busy watching the game. Our needs matter too, but we have to love her always, not just when we’re about to lose her. Not just till we get her back. Not just in the moments we think to matter, because of all moments matter.”
If you want to live this out, check out his article on when a husband should prioritize his wife.
4. She’s Done Being Taken for Granted
When a woman or any person for that matter is always giving but never receiving, no one should expect her to live that way for the rest of her life. She’s emptied out, and she has nothing left to give her partner, let alone herself who needs the most care and affection. When this happens, with the little that she has, she will walk out. This gives her the opportunity to only break loose from what’s been draining her, but it gives her the chance to rebuild herself and grow.
Aeen Always, the writer of this article admitted, “I used to be that girl. I used to have my heart on my sleeve all the time, putting so much time and effort into every relationship or almost-relationship even though it was not reciprocated… But things don’t always happen that way. With every heartbreak, I began to realize what I want, and what I deserve.”
And when the idea clicks for a woman that leaving far outweighs staying, then the decision often becomes final. This one quote reads, “men are quicker to leave, but usually always return. Women take longer to think if they should leave, but if they leave, they never return.”
5. She Knows She Deserves Better
The biggest advantage a woman can have when it comes to a relationship is knowing her self-worth, and when she isn’t getting the treatment she deserves, she’ll realize that, and she’ll move on.
They also say the key to making a relationship work is communication. Rightly so, what happens when a woman communicates what she needs, but it isn’t met? Take this story from Mark Groves when his ex-girlfriend expressed to him some things she needed him to do better and he responded with, “If it’s so bad, why don’t you leave? You have it so good.”
When Mark told his father about this conversation, he said, “Wow Mark, she’s telling you how to love her.” That made Mark sink to his stomach and realize that’s not the right way for him to love his then partner.
So, if you’re in this same situation, take it from Mark’s experience that when a woman honestly communicates to you her needs, it’s not to annoy you but she’s offering her view on making the relationship better because she knows that both parties should be treated the best way possible.
So, if you’re currently in a relationship that made you realize that your woman deserves to be treated the best way possible and you don’t want to lose her, let her know you feel that way by showing her how much she means to you. If not, don’t be surprised if she decides to leave because she doesn’t want to be in a relationship that only hurts her. When that happens, she won’t turn back.
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